Ellis quotes from Grey's Anatomy

I was the only woman on my surgical residency program, they called me "girl" and "Ms. Grey". Along with the one black male resident I was clearly excluded. They didn't want me to be part of a group of males. So I did the only audacious thing that you can do with an audacious technique. I got myself published on the major american medical magazine, that caused an apbold, a resident was published. But the most audacious thing came when they saw how I named my technique "The Grey's method". You should have listened to the boy's reaction.

Meredith

I'm not sure refusing treatment is what you wanna do-

Apparently, what I want doesn't matter. It isn't even legally binding. So it's really about what you want, Meredith. You're in charge.

Meredith

You think I like making these decisions for you? You think it's fun to get calls from the nursing home asking if it's okay to change your medication, asking whether I was planning on giving the nurse, who changes you every morning a Christmas tip? But I do it. I do it because there is nobody else. Because you have managed to alienate everybody else in your life and I am the only one, so I have to step up and do it. [voice wavering] You wanna know why I'm so unfocused? So ordinary? You wanna know what happened to me? You. You happened to me.

Then let me refuse the heart surgery.

Meredith

No.

Why not?

Meredith

Because killing my mother is not gonna be another thing that happens to me.

You shouldn't be here.

Meredith

Neither should you.

Just keep going. Don't be a damn - [hugs her] You are - You are anything but ordinary, Meredith. Now run. Run!