The Pitt · Season 1, Episode 4
“10:00 A.M.” · Season 1, Episode 4
In this episode: Robby Robinavitch (3), Dana Evans (1), Dr. Samira Mohan (1), Dr. Trinity Santos (1)
I had a teacher, mentor, who told me about a Hawaiian ritual called Hoʻoponopono, or "the four things that matter most." It's basically just a few key things that we can say when we're saying goodbye to a loved one that can really help at the early stages of loss.
What are they?
They're gonna sound really simple, but I swear I've seen them work.
Okay.
I love you. Thank you. I forgive you. Please forgive me.
Distraction is a terrible strategy. When a patient says, "I'm hurting," we don't respond, "What's your major?"
Oh, I wasn't trying to diminish
Additionally, "I" statements work better than "you" statements. "I can see how painful this is" acknowledges the reality of the situation and invites further examination. "You need to move on" has the opposite effect.
Understood, but in my personal experience...
Your personal experience isn't germane here. We bring our education to the job, not our baggage.
It's good that your families live close. This becomes a primary relationship now. You're the last witnesses to each other's lives. You hold the memories.
But I've got four days off next week. I think I'm gonna get out of Dodge and head for the hills.
I wish you would. What'd Shakespeare say "Physician, heal thyself"?
What? Have you been talking to Collins? Not Shakespeare. Luke, the disciple, who probably heard it from Paul the Apostle. But what do I know? I'm Jewish. It's not my book. Shakespeare had nothing to do with it, though.
Yeah. Maybe a little time off would be good.
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